Are your relationships actually separating you, or creating greater in your life?
In the last several years, I have found myself in an unexpected role, one I certainly never sought out or traditionally prepared for, but one that students and clients have gravitated towards: "Couples Therapy." Recently, I facilitated a powerful five-day workshop that opened the hearts and expanded the consciousness of a remarkable group of women making extraordinary choices in their lives. I wanted to share some of the insights that emerged from that experience and invite you to explore greater possibilities in your own partnerships.
I've come to realize that our understanding of "relationship" is fundamentally flawed. One of the most profound insights I've encountered in recent years, shared by Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness, completely changed my perspective. Did you know that, according to an old English dictionary, the word "relationship" means "the distance between two objects"? This revelation blew my mind the first time I heard it, and it's a concept that has the potential to transform how we approach ALL our partnerships.
Redefining Relationships
From a young age, many of us are conditioned by societal expectations, cultural norms, and familial pressures to seek out relationships, get married, and have children. Think back to your childhood—if you’re a woman, what was one of the first toys you were given? Likely, it was a baby doll, nurturing the idea that your role in this world is to be a mother. These assumptions are so deeply ingrained that we rarely stop to question whether they align with our true desires.
But what if we did pause and ask ourselves if these roles and expectations were genuinely ours? How much of our lives have been shaped by others' points of view, conclusions, expectations, judgments, and limitations? This cycle often spans generations, with each inheriting and perpetuating these beliefs. It's time to break free.
The Power of Awareness and Clearing the old to make way for something new
In my private practice on our journey together, we use specific tools to clear these deeply rooted beliefs. You might find these processes unfamiliar, and that's okay. Repeatedly engaging with them will help you release the constraints placed upon you by others and even by yourself.
For instance, I recall my own experience growing up. As a child, I loved playing with dolls, but societal norms dictated that "boys don't play with dolls." This suppression of my true inclinations led to a long period of disconnection from my authentic self, whereby disconnecting me from attracting authenticity in my partnerships. Ironically, I later discovered a deep love and natural ability for caring for children. This was a part of me that was always there, but it was buried under layers of societal expectations. With deep transformational subconscious work in the ThetaHealing method and with the tools of Access Consciousness (both Midalities which I currently hold a master of), I have been able to entirely release the effects of these programs.
Questioning Deep-Seated Beliefs
Consider your own experiences. Have you ever been told you're too much of something or not enough of another? These judgments can shape your self-perception and your approach to relationships. Many of us enter relationships seeking completion, influenced by societal narratives that suggest we need a partner to be whole.
This belief often drives us to seek relationships, not from a place of authentic connection, but from a need to fulfill external expectations. We paste pictures on vision boards, dream about ideal partners, and enter relationships hoping to find completeness. However, this can lead to a profound disconnection from our true selves.
Embracing the Concept of "Creationship"
It's time to shift our focus from traditional relationships to "creationships." A creationship is a partnership where two individuals come together to create something greater in their lives and the world. It’s about allowance, kindness, love, forgiveness, expansion, and freedom.
Take a moment to reflect on your current relationships. Are they filled with expectations and judgments, or do they foster growth and authenticity? Begin to ask yourself, "What creationship can I be with this person that would allow me to be who I truly be?"
The Journey to Self-Awareness
Embarking on this journey means including yourself in your relationships, recognizing your worth and authenticity. It doesn't mean cutting people out of your life; rather, it's about being in allowance of yourself and others. The Law of Affinity states that like attracts like, so as you cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself, you'll naturally draw people who support and reflect your true essence.
The Tool for Self-Discovery
To aid in this transformation, I offer you a powerful tool: the question, "Who am I?" This isn't about listing your attributes or achievements. It's about exploring your true self beyond societal definitions. As you ponder this question, allow yourself to become aware of aspects of yourself that you may have ignored or judged.
Embracing Authenticity
As you journey through this process, resist the urge to judge yourself. Instead, embrace your discoveries with compassion. Remember, if you don't love and accept yourself, how can you expect others to do the same?
Our work together is about creating a new relationship with yourself, one that acknowledges your true essence and paves the way for authentic creationships with others. Join me on this transformative journey, and let's redefine what it means to connect, love, and be truly seen.
Discover the Power of Creationship Sessions
Embark on a transformative journey with our innovative approach to couples therapy—Creationship Sessions. These sessions are designed to help you and your partner create a deeper, more authentic connection, or to assist you individually in calling in your highest and best partner right now.
Key Features of Creationship Sessions:
Flexible Formats: Join as a couple or individually, based on your needs and goals.
Duration: Each session is 90 minutes long, ensuring ample time for deep exploration and growth.
Recording: Receive a recording of each session to reference and reflect on at your convenience.
Program Recommendation: Commit to a 6-week program with weekly sessions for the best results.
Accessibility: Participate remotely via Zoom or in person in Amsterdam.
Intensive Option: Book a week-long intensive (5 sessions daily over the course of a week) in person, anywhere in the world.
Investment: Each session is $444, or save 20% by booking the 6-week program for $2141.
Ready to redefine your relationships and discover true connection? Book your Creationship Session today and take the first step towards a more fulfilling and authentic partnership.
To book a session, or to begin your journey and emark on a 6 week transformation of your relationship to creationship, head here.
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